What’s a Family For?

by Mike Ayers, Ph.D.

Sometimes the way we use things in life undermines the very purpose for which those things were intended. For example, modern inventions such as the cell phone, airplanes, computers, etc... all of these things should have been time-saving devices that would allow more family interaction and recreation. However, the way that we’ve used them have actually made our lives busier and more stressful. I mean, how many times have you been impatient waiting on your fast food in the drive-thru?

Beyond these superficial matters, improperly stewarding a precious gift is tragic. That’s why it’s important to remember the purpose behind all things priceless.

The purpose of a family extends beyond mere existence; it serves as a sanctuary for growth, understanding, and the passing on of values from one generation to the next. So, what’s a family for?

1. The Family is a Place of Learning

At the heart of every family lies the profound purpose of being a place of learning. Whether you’re intentionally teaching your children or not, they are learning from you. They are leaning about how to do conflict, relationships, love, marriage, honesty, trust, values, etc. Fathers play a pivotal role in guiding their children through the myriad messages life presents them teaching them what to believe and what to reject. Through shared experiences, conversations, and gentle guidance, fathers become the mentors who shape the character and worldview of their children. Be intentional about your teaching.

2. The Family is a Place of Laughter

Laughter is the language that binds families together. Dads often become the architects of joy, creating a home filled with warmth and humor. It’s a gift they give their families. The ability to find joy in the simple moments, share a hearty laugh, and create cherished memories contributes to a positive and uplifting family environment. One you’re your kids will remember for a lifetime. Dads, with their playful spirits, instill a sense of joy that becomes the cornerstone of a happy and resilient family.

3. The Family is a Place of Love

Love is the foundation upon which a family thrives. It’s the fuel to the relational flame that warms the hearts of family to each other. Fathers are instrumental in cultivating an environment where love is expressed, felt, and celebrated. Beyond providing material needs, dads contribute emotional support, understanding, and a sense of security. Their strength is an anchor through storms that will come. A family should be a shelter from storms and a place, where no matter how difficult life outside the home becomes, acceptance and the comfort of love permeates the home. Life will take us many places. Love should always bring us home. The unconditional love a father provides forms the bedrock of a family, fostering emotional well-being and resilience in each family member.

4. A Place of Launching

As children grow, dads play a crucial role in helping them spread their wings and embark on their individual journeys. The role of a father extends beyond nurturing to empowering, supporting, and guiding children as they navigate life's challenges. In this way, they prepare children to face a sometimes scary and dangerous world. Through presence, training and calling for courage in their children, dads launch their kids from the home and into life well-prepared. A father's encouragement and belief in their children's potential serve as a launching pad, propelling them toward their dreams and aspirations.

5. A Place of Legacy

The legacy of a family is a tapestry woven with the threads of shared experiences, values, and traditions. Dads contribute significantly to this legacy by passing down their wisdom, values, faith and life lessons to the next generation. Through storytelling, family rituals, and the embodiment of core values, fathers leave an indelible mark and create a legacy that spans generations.

Fatherhood is a profound, transformative journey that shapes the very essence of life for our kids. You’ll impact your children and home by design or by default. By embracing your role as wisdom-giver, joy-bringer, pillar of love, launchpad, and leaver of legacy, you’ll bless your kids and the world.